What writing romance has done for me
I’ve become more outgoing. For a long time I was a quiet person that couldn’t talk to men. When I started writing erotic romance I noticed my ability to communicate with the opposite sex became much more…evolved. I could flirt, joke, and speak plainly to any man without feeling uncomfortable. WOW. But wait, that’s not all.
I’ve learned to embrace my sensuality. When I started writing love scenes, I felt I needed to be more open, honest, and blunt. As my husband says ‘say what you mean and mean what you say’. I needed to say what I was picturing in a language that would capture the reader. And I also needed to know what I was writing was accurate. That meant some fun research.Hehehe. My husband will tell you he’s MORE than happy with my changes and research (at least that’s what he says to me). I think when I finally let out the inner erotic writer inside me, I became a new person.
I’ve stopped trying to fit in and learned to accept myself as I am. For years I kept suppressing who I am because I was trying to fit into a mold that wasn’t for me. I’ve opened the door to Milly and she’s not going back inside the box.
Writing romance is very freeing. I love it and would never change that. I tell people to be themselves. It’s the only way to live a happy life. Maybe it wasn’t writing, maybe it was something else for others, but whatever it was that has made them who they are today, they need to embrace it.
You are who you were meant to be. The question is: what made you who you are today?