Meet Gentry Cabot from WHEN YOU KNEW
Greetings Gentry! Thanks so much for being here. I hear you are pretty busy nowadays with your new baby. Can you tell us a bit about him?
Colton (Colt) fills my heart with love and no small amount of fear of failure. He’s only three months old, and still very colicky, but I can’t stop holding, smelling, kissing, and cradling him. I don’t know much about being a mom yet, but I do know that I want him to feel loved and special, no matter how cranky he can be.
How has becoming a mom changed you?
Well, my carefree days are behind me, and my dating life, such as it was, is now non-existent. On the upside, instead of thinking about myself, almost all of my focus is on making sure he’s healthy, safe, and happy. In order to give him the security I never felt, I’m doing my best to fit in with my family and become a more responsible adult. It’s not easy, but I can’t afford to fail.
So to offer your son a deeper connection to your parents and siblings, you have decided to work for your family’s tea company. How is that going?
Not so well. I’ve had a bunch of fun jobs in my life, and I love photography and blogging. This corporate life is like an alien world. Worse, working for my mom is not helping our personal relationship. She’s a Type-A on steroids, and nothing I’ve ever done is good enough for her. I’m not sure how long I can keep showing up if I’m not making any progress with my family.
Despite hating having a nanny while you were growing up, you have hired a temporary nanny for Colt. There has got to be a story there.
I did resent my nannies. I watched my brother and sister and their stay-at-home mom having fun together across town. Meanwhile, my workaholic mom and dad stuck me alone with nannies who played games on their phone half of every day. I vowed not to inflict that on my son. But if I want to develop a stronger tie to my family for Colt’s sake, I need to work with them, which means I need help with Colt. I signed him up for daycare so he’d be with other kids, but daycare facilities aren’t equipped for kids with serious colic, plus he had an ear infection and fever the night before I had to go back to work. Luckily, Ian is in town for a while and can fill in the gap until Colt’s infection and colic subside enough to put him in daycare.
So Ian is smart, caring, and pretty much dedicates his whole life to helping others -- sounds a little too good to be true...what’s your take on the guy?
He is all of those things but, like the rest of us, he’s got some flaws. He can be pretty quick to judge others, especially if he thinks they are being wasteful or complaining about something that isn’t a life-or-death matter. I suppose it would be hard to have patience for complaints about a regular bad day after you’ve just returned home from helping people who’ve lost everything in a hurricane. But still, he needs to learn that not every minute of his life needs to be spent in the serious pursuit of a goal. He doesn’t play or laugh near enough, but I’m working on these things. I think he’s coming around.
Ian’s only planning to be in the States for two or three weeks and then it is another long trip abroad for him, possibly permanently. Doesn’t sound like there is a future with him...yet you can’t seem to help yourself from thinking about him. How do you think you’ll adjust when he’s gone?
I know, and in the beginning, I flirted mostly for my own amusement. Now I’m tracking down Colt’s dad, and hopefully he’ll be interested in helping me raise our son. Maybe we could even cobble together a family. I’m not sure. Honestly, I’m not much of a planner. I find that the best things in life often come around when you least expect it. I don’t know what will happen, but I also know I’m strong enough to handle whatever comes my way.
If there is one thing you could say to Ian without fear of judgment or rejection, what would it be?
I speak my mind pretty freely, so there isn’t much I haven’t said to him. I’m used to being judged negatively, too, so that doesn’t bother me much. Rejection—well, that’s harder. You’d think I’d be used to that, but it still hurts. I’ve never told a man I loved him, yet. That might be the place to start.
Thanks again for being with us today. We appreciate the time and good luck with Colt...and Ian!
Thanks for having me, and for the well wishes. I might need those!
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