Finding the Meaning of Your Dreams
I have extremely vivid dreams at night. So vivid they often seem real to me. As you can imagine I’ve been fascinated with dreams my entire life. One of the great joys I have in my job as a mental health counselor is working with clients to uncover what their nightly dreams are really about.
Here’s some of the things I use to help clients find the meaning of their dreams…
*Generally, when we sleep deeply and don’t dream that’s an indication that our body is tired. When we dream intensely all night long, it’s usually an indicator that our mind is stressed or we are mentally exhausted.
*Always record your dreams in as much detail as possible. Do this for a few weeks/months. Then go back and look for themes. Similarities. Patterns. You might be surprised at what you find.
*Don’t always think the dream is about what it seems to be about. Look for a deeper meaning. For example, awhile back I dreamed that three lions were chasing me as I ran across a field. That dream was not about me being afraid of lions. The dream ultimately was about me being stressed by three people who I kept trying to withdraw from and who wouldn’t let me go.
*Ask yourself how you felt emotionally during the dream and when you woke up. Your emotions are a better indicator to what the dream is really about than what actually happened in the dream! Stick with the emotions. Always.
*Never use a dream interpretation book. Different objects mean different things to different people. Period. I hate watermelon, so a dream about watermelon would represent something negative to me. But if you love watermelon then that dream might represent something fabulous.
*Find a good dream therapist. Yes. Dream therapists really do exist. But if you can’t find one or afford one, find a friend who is super-talented at talking about dreams. Usually, I talk with my friend Naomi. She never tells me what my dream was about, but asks enough questions that I start to find the thread of meaning myself.
*Sometimes dreams are healing. Recognize them. Embrace them. After my beloved Grandma died, I loved falling asleep at night because I would dream about her. Every night I would get to hug her and smell her perfume. Those dreams helped me cope with her loss.
*Other times a dream is just a dream. Sometimes that catsup bottle in your dream really just stands for the catsup you squeezed on your hotdog earlier in the day. Our brains are funny that way.
Is it any wonder that I write books about women whose dreams possess special powers?